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Happy Friday, loves! I’m off to Minnesota for the weekend to spend time with my family. In the meantime, I wanted to share a story that I came across last year and has been on my mind recently. The theme is around how you handle adversity. We all get stressed out, anxiety is very real, things don’t always go our way, and life happens. Struggling and adversity is a part of life that you have to accept – what makes is a difference is how you choose to react to tough times. This is true in life, business, and everything in between. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this story.

How Do You Handle Adversity?

How do you handle adversity?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up.  She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see.”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma the daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently.

  • The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
  • The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its insides became hardened.
  • The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

When times get tough, which one are you? Choose to be the coffee bean.

kimono: spell | bag: clare v | shoes: marc fisher

 

 

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Sometimes basic is better. A closet with all the right basics is timeless, versatile, and practical. This year, my goal has been to choose high quality basics over trendy seasonal pieces, and the effort has paid off. It’s so easy to get dressed in the morning. I’m actually getting enough wear from everything I buy to justify my purchases. But basic does not have to equal boring! If you’re wondering how to keep your basics from being boring, read on to learn how to (easily) elevate basic pieces.

Must have wardrobe basics

First, you need to build your wardrobe foundation. These will be different for everyone, but I like to have a mix of classic pieces in white, black, gray, and camel. Personally I am not the biggest fan of navy, but this is a great color for basics as well. Some of the basics in my closet that have been getting a lot of wear this year include a black silk camisoledenim shorts, basic t-shirts, and black booties. These are classic pieces you can wear for multiple seasons and mix and match with trendier pieces.

Elevate Basic Pieces

The easiest step to elevate basic pieces

Just because you are wearing basic pieces doesn’t mean you can’t highlight your own style. The key to elevating basics is in how you choose to accessorize the rest of your outfit. You can either mix a basic item with a trendier piece, or elevate a simple look through your accessories. I’m a huge fan of statement pieces with basics. One of my girlfriends is the owner of a really killer accessories line called Sticks + Stones.

What would otherwise be a very simple (read: boring) outfit is instantly transformed by some well placed accessories – a statement necklace, earrings, and a studded belt. So this look is perfect for festival season or a casual weekend outing.

How do you elevate your basics? xx

top: cami nyc | shorts: re/done | belt: b-low the belt | jewelry: sticks + stones

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Making friends as an adult is hard. I ran into this situation when I moved to LA a few years ago. When I left my close group of girlfriends in Chicago I felt alone in a new city. I didn’t know many people in LA. So I quickly realized that unless I wanted to spend every free moment with my boyfriend, I needed to make new friends. I felt lucky that I had my boyfriend to support me while I went through the transition of moving to a new city, but at the end of the day there’s nothing like having a group of girlfriends to go out with and have your back.

The problem was, I never had to make friends as an adult. After college, most of my close friends stayed in Chicago and we would meet other people through our jobs and mutual acquaintances. Moving to LA was in many senses starting over and rebuilding my social circle. It involved a lot of “friend dates” and different people coming and going over the years – in many ways, it’s like romantic dating. You meet through mutual friends or go in blind, and feel each other out. Sometimes it becomes something more, other times you never see each other again. You have to put yourself out there and be ok with rejection, giving more than you receive, and getting hurt. Here’s the advice I received on how to make friends as an adult, and what actually worked.

Making Friends as an Adult | by The Luxi Look

Use your network

The easiest ways to meet friends are the same as the easiest ways to meet a significant other. The people you spend the most time with naturally are likely to end up as your friends. This means school, your job, and your existing friends. I met a lot of people through my job and the people I did know in LA, which I appreciated because it led me to some people I consider my close friends today.

Say yes to everything 

As someone who is naturally introverted and doesn’t feel FOMO often, this was hard for me. But saying “yes” to plans means you’ll get out of the house, socialize, and meet new people. You won’t meet people if you don’t put yourself out there. If you always turn down plans, one day people will stop asking.

Be open minded

People often can surprise you when you get to know them better. Letting go of judgement and opening myself up to people that were different from me really helped me meet some of my closest friends.

Make the first move

This is not the time to be proud and wait for someone else to extend the invitation. Once I started meeting more people, I realized that a lot of people have trouble making friends as an adult, and most people were more than happy to meet someone new or different.

Find shared interests

Somewhat obvious, but still very important. Shared interests matter because it gives you something to do and enjoy together! Blogging has been a great way for me to meet new people, and I’ve met some of my closest friends through social media and blogging, including Linda of Kangthropologie photographed here. I never thought I would say this, but I’m so appreciative of social media for opening my eyes to so many new experiences and introducing me to so many people.

Find shared values

Shared interests can spark a new friendship, but shared values and beliefs grow and sustain your relationship.

How have you made friends as an adult? xx

 

 

Millennial Pink

Millennial Pink | by The Luxi Look

Pink is continuing to have its moment, specifically millennial pink. This spring we’re seeing a new pastel, lavender, come into the mix, but I am still very much into this shad of pink. Speaking of which, Glossier just nails millennial pink, and I am so excited for their permanent LA store to open next month! You will continue to see me think pink as we progress into summer, I can’t get enough of the color.

Millennial Pink | by The Luxi Look

Millennial Pink | by The Luxi Look

Millennial Pink | by The Luxi Look

Millennial Pink | by The Luxi Look

What is Millennial Pink?

This particular shad of pink has been hot for a moment now, but if you’re still not sure what it is exactly, don’t worry. Remember Pantone’s color of the year in 2016, “rose quartz”? Millennial pink is very similar – again, think Glossier packaging and branding. Sharing full outfit details below as well. Sorry for the short post today guys. I promise I’ll have a full life update and share some fun projects I’ve been working on lately as well soon!

xx

Millennial Pink | by The Luxi Look

Millennial Pink | by The Luxi Look

Millennial Pink | by The Luxi Look

set: minkpink | backpack: sticks + stones | boots: marc fisher

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Let’s face it, designer handbags are expensive. No matter how you slice it, it’s a lot of money to spend on a single item. But the quality is often better, and the right handbag can be timeless and worn forever. If you truly have your heart set on a bag and you’re determined to see it in your closet, you can either save for the bag over time, or you check out Tradesy before paying full price. Chances are, the bag of your dreams will be on the site, and for significantly less than the original retail price. Sound too good to be true? It’s not.

Tradesy is a reliable designer re-sale site that only sells like new, verified designer goods.

What that means is you will find authentic designer goods that were previously owned, but are in mint condition. It also means that whatever you purchase online will come in its original packaging (boxes, verification cards, dust bags included!). To be honest, I was totally skeptical, but after wearing several bags from Tradesy (that I absolutely LOVE) I can absolutely attest to their quality and condition. You would never even know they were pre-owned. I guess one man’s trash is another man’s treasure.

You can find all of your favorite designers on Tradesy.

Saint Laurent, Gucci, Chanel, Louis Vuitton, Chloe, and more. The selection is unreal and no, this is not sponsored. Discovering Tradesy has made me seriously reconsidering full price for anything anymore, even designer goods.

Speaking of, how cute is it fringe crossbody bag from Saint Laurent?! It’s perfect for festival season, and available on Tradesy! Are you sold yet?

Get $50 off your first purchase of $400+ on Tradesy using code AMYZ50

 

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